Adulting.
Whoopee! We’re adulting! (oh the sarcasm).
When I began my adulting journey I thought my world would be filled with vacations to different countries, Drake lyric captioned photos on my Instagram, quality time with my friends back home and the freedom of living on my own by MY rules.
Sike, I was wrong.
My introduction to adulting started with being broke immediately after college.
And what ACTUALLY happens, are bills.
Lots of bills.
-Loan payments.
-Electric Bill.
-Water bill.
-Rent.
-Gas.
-Food.
You’re lucky if you have enough to plan and execute and extracurricular an activity.
Also, what seems like a career comes into play one way or another.
My “Career” just happen to come into play about a year after graduating when I was working two unfulfilling part-time jobs to feed myself and barely make my rent.
After aspiring to be just as ambitious as the man I was with for two year’s, with his direction I applied at a place he was working at.
Which just happened to be a payroll company, that just happen to pay me enough to be able to afford to live in Maryland on my own.
And with this job, I learned one of many adulting lessons, one of them being: your work friends quickly become your real friends.
You’re with them every day, you know their life, they know yours.
And it’s not the worst thing ever until you look up and haven’t talked to your original group of friends in months. Not to mention you discover this thing called happy hour.
Then you look up and you have a belly and you could be considered a borderline alcoholic.
But anyway.
Keeping in touch with your original friends becomes challenging.
Everyone is adulting in their own way, text messages become few and far between, and this ladies and gentlemen, this where group chats and apps like glide come in handy.
Keeping all your friends in one place for updates and inside jokes works, and keeps everyone in the loop. And Glide. Recording a 10-minute story for a friend to watch later instead of having to actually schedule a call. It works. Trust me, and it helps you maintain the relationship.
Speaking of relationships. You may lose some or a bunch.
You begin to realize what people were just your “going out“ friends and what people were actually your close friends. But also, you might want to check in with your close friends to see if they’re actually still close. Because you may look up and find out they’re engaged to be married and then not get invited to the wedding, then your left wondering if your actually considered a close friend anymore.
Sometimes check-in’s are necessary. Sometimes actions speak louder than words.
As I’ve gotten older I watch people becomes less about maintaining their friendships and more about building a relationships. Which I’ve never thought was a bad thing, as long as there is a balance.
Because relationships get messy. Friends will always be there for moral or financial support. Sometimes parents will be too. But maintaining relationships with friends and family are just as important.
Girlfriends also come in handy when venting is necessary and your partner is sick and tired of your coming home from work every day complaining about your work or how things aren’t right with the world. That happy hour session or facetime call to that girlfriend or guy friends out of state can be the difference between walking in the house with an attitude or walking into the house with a smile.
It’s also always fun to keep a few single friends around to hear about dating experiences.
Dating in this day and age is only getting messier.
You don’t know if your “dating” “talking” “serious” casual” or whatever and people just can’t seem to communicate. It’s a mess.
It also always seems like everyone has someone.
They don’t.
OR.
It seems like everyone has kids.
They don’t.
It’s somebody out there for everybody.
Everyone is just running a different race.
Don’t Forget that.
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